Supporting Mom


Supporting mom makes a difference and helps mothers.Ways that supporters can help with breastfeeding include:

  • Assist with housework and ask friends and family for help, so mom has the time and energy to breastfeed.
  • Problem solve together if difficulties with breastfeeding arise.
  • Finding breastfeeding resources in your area if needed.
  • Monitor the baby’s diapers.
  • Monitor mom’s comfort with breastfeeding.
  • Ask mom what you can do to help her and support her to make breastfeeding easier.
  • Talk about how you will get the childcare and housework done.
  • Treat mom with kindness, affection, and admiration.
  • Let mom know you appreciate the hard work she is doing by breastfeeding.
  • Sit with mom while she breastfeeds, provide comfort, understanding, and care.



Support from family and friends can help make breastfeeding a success. Let them know their support matters.

Breastfeeding is natural and babies are born to breastfeed. During the early days after birth, some babies and mothers need time to learn and practice their new breastfeeding skills. What other people say or think may affect how successful you are at breastfeeding. By supporting breastfeeding, your family and friends can help you give your baby the best start in life.


  • When you are pregnant and after giving birth, tell your family and friends that you plan to breastfeed and ask them to support you.
  • Encourage them to become familiar with the benefits of breastfeeding.
  • Encourage them to visit this website and the supports in your community.


Become Informed: Get as much information about breastfeeding as you can before the baby is born. Talk to friends, relatives, other families who have breastfed their baby, and health professionals to learn what makes the breastfeeding experience successful. Explore this website to learn more about breastfeeding and how you can help mom.

Know Where Support is Available: Become familiar with the resources in your community and help the mother access them.

Offer Encouragement: A new mother may worry that she does not have enough milk for her baby. Most women have more than enough milk. Encourage her to breastfeed, as it is the best way to feed her baby. Tell her that you believe in her. Tell her that you are there to help.

Do Not Disturb: Limit visitors, telephone calls, and other interruptions during the early weeks after the baby is born, so that the mother and baby can get to know one another and learn how to breastfeed successfully.

Encourage Rest: A new mother needs lots of energy to focus on the baby. Help with everyday needs such as meal preparation, dishes and laundry. Keep the home tidy and help her to care for other children.

Help the Mother Care for the Baby: Babies cry for many reasons – not just for hunger. Learn different ways of comforting the baby such as skin-to-skin holding, walking, singing, or dancing. Bathing and changing are other ways to help the mother care for the baby. By comforting, bathing, or changing the baby you can give the mother more time to breastfeed and take care of herself.

Have Realistic Expectations: A new baby changes everyone’s life forever. It is normal to have mixed feelings about these changes. Not supporting the mother may result in her giving up breastfeeding. This will not end these feelings. Breastfeeding will help the mother, father, and baby.

Encourage the Mother to Get Help: If the mother feels that things are not going well with breastfeeding, encourage her to ask for help.

Remember That Each Mother is Different: Ask her what you can do to help her.



Working as a co-parenting team is important and will help you meet the goals you set for your child.


  1. Decide together how long you plan to exclusively breastfeed.
  2. Decide on how household and childcare tasks will be divided. Make sure both of you think the plan is fair.
  3. Offer each other breastfeeding support. This includes giving emotional support, helping each other with chores, reminding one another of how important the decision you made to breastfeed is, providing each other with breastfeeding information, and problem solving together.
  4. Ensure both of you are involved with caring for your breastfed baby. Mothers get to bond while breastfeeding. Co-Parents also need time to care for their babies so they can learn how to comfort and calm their babies without feeding.
  5. Communicate often about breastfeeding. Let your co-parent know if you have issues or concerns, then problem solve together.
  6. Breastfeed often, at least 8 times in 24 hours and ensure that Mother is comfortable while breastfeeding.
  7. Monitor your baby’s output and energy so that you are confident he/she is getting enough breast milk.
  8. Reading your baby’s cues is the best way to know when he/she wants to feed.
  9. Get help with breastfeeding if you are concerned your baby is not getting enough or if mom is not comfortable while feeding. Know where to get help in your community.
  10. Treat your co-parent with admiration and fondness and build on each other’s strengths.



Co-parents can include mothers, fathers, partners, grandparents, sisters, aunts, friends, etc. Co-parents are any two adults who are jointly responsible for a child. Working as an effective co-parenting team is important and will help you meet the goals you set for your child.

Set goals.
When co-parents set breastfeeding goals they are more likely to achieve them. Talk about how long your child will be exclusively breastfeed (only breast milk) and how long your child will continue to breastfeed once solid foods have been introduced at 6 months.

Discuss what you will need to do in order to meet these goals. What can both co-parents do to ensure mom has the time and energy to feed?Here are some things you can do to work as a team towards meeting your breastfeeding goals:

  1. Make a plan as to where you will get support if challenges arise.
  2. Discuss how you will get the household chores completed.
  3. Discuss which family and friends are available to help out.
  4. Make sure you are both actively involved with baby care and getting to know your baby.
  5. Support one another in meeting your breastfeeding goals.
  6. Communicate effectively and solve problems together.


Effective communication.

  • Put aside time to talk about how breastfeeding is going for each of you.
  • Practice active listening, being present, being attentive, and not getting distracted.

Try this effective communication exercise:

  1. Take turns speaking and listening.
  2. When the speaker is talking the listener should not interrupt.
  3. When the speaker is finished the listener can repeat what he/she thinks he/she heard.
  4. Once you both agree that the message was understood, switch and give the listener a turn to talk.

Effective problem solving.

Problems often get in the way of you trying to meet your goals. It is important to effectively problem solve, so that small problems do not become bigger problems. As well, problems can get in the way of you and your partner working as an effective team.

  • Deal with problems when you are both calm. You may need to set a time to discuss the problem when you have both had a chance to cool down.
  • Remember you are a team working towards a common goal for your child. Stay focused on your goal.

Try this effective communication exercise:

  1. Communicate about the problem first, so that you both have a good understanding of the problem. Use the effective communication exercise, if needed.
  2. Define the problem. Try to keep it small and simple. What do you want to change or address?
  3. Think about a number of possible solutions and list them.
  4. Discuss the pros and cons to each suggestion.
  5. Choose a solution you will use to address this problem – compromise.
  6. Follow-up and see how the solution is working.



Fathers/partners and other co-parents need to be involved with their breastfed babies. They need to get to know their babies’ likes and dislikes right from the start.
There are many important ways co-parents can be involved and get to know your baby that do not involve feeding the baby.Co-parents can:

  • Bring the baby to mom when he cues he is hungry.
  • Burp and hold the baby after the feed.
  • Change the baby’s diaper.
  • Bathe the baby
  • Sing and read to the baby.
  • Play with the baby.
  • Give the baby a massage.
  • Put the baby down to sleep.

Co-parents can find things they enjoy doing with their babies. Their relationships with their babies are very important and will benefit both mothers and babies greatly. Although many co-parents do not have experience with newborns, with practice, they will feel confident and relaxed.